The issues that both impact on and support wellbeing are different when you are a fundraising consultant or freelancer compared to working directly in a charity. You may not have a direct line manager and therefore have a different experience of workplace cultures and behaviours. However, you also will likely have a different support system, less formal opportunities to access wellbeing support through a workplace, and a different relationship with colleagues.
Good mental health = good healthy business!
Running your own business and working for yourself can be incredibly rewarding, but like everything that’s incredibly rewarding, the lows are as low as the highs are high. As it takes up such a huge chunk of your life, it can also take a huge toll on your mental health and wellbeing. The key to putting your mind at ease, is to do something productive with your time, planning the day ahead or being less self-critical. Taking time for yourself is actual self-care.
It has also been widely documented that owners of start-up businesses are twice as likely to have depression compared with the rest of the public as there can be a significant blurring of the lines between home and work life. (Uni. of San Francisco, Bold Business July 2019). Furthermore, many tips for maintaining mental health (e.g., taking time off) are unrealistic for business owners.
In this advice series, the Chartered Institute Consultants Group committee members have taken a topic each with the aim of offering advice and examples of how they balance work, life, and everything else in between! We trust the topics covered are applicable to the many fundraising consultants and freelancers out there and we hope these wellbeing tips might become daily habits for your success.
Please note, however, that we are not experts in wellness, and would always suggest seeking professional help if required. We also strongly advocate doing what works best for you.
Recognising the physical signs of stress and how to combat them
It’s cold and dark at the moment and it can feel even more difficult to motivate ourselves in the midst of winter. We’re responding to the natural world, plus our freedom is curtailed because of pandemic restrictions. Our stress levels are raised more than usual, which can play havoc with our levels of anxiety and depression. So, if we can’t change the season, or the reality around us, what can we do to make ourselves feel better?
Well, it turns out, quite a lot. We can break our stress cycle. When we feel anxious, cortisol and adrenaline course through our bloodstream which stimulates our flight, fight or freeze response. We have little control over this prehistoric biological system designed to save us from danger. But we do have control over whether we stay there or not. We can return to a calmer state where cortisol and adrenaline dissipate. Here’s how:
- Run or move in any way, this is the fastest way to release tension.
- Laugh. It’s a release!
- Cry. If you have trouble accessing these emotions, music, films, tv can help.
- Sleep. It’s very good for regulating emotions.
- Affection. Maybe difficult for some at the moment, but if you can (within the guidelines), a 20 second hug works wonders to release stress.
- Breathe. Look on the internet for breathing exercises; you can do them anywhere.
- Visualise and imagine a better outcome. Your brain does not know the difference, even if you do.
- Positive social interaction. Even Zoom and phone calls can help.
The good news is you don’t have to do all of these things at the same time, pick the ones that work for you and at the best times for you. Remember you’re in control.
The fundraising landscape
Information comes at us from every direction: reports, research, blogs, insights and any number of podcasts, webinars, conferences, and training sessions. Keeping our knowledge bank current and undertaking regular horizon scanning is crucial, especially for consultants. To be effective we need to think clearly and strategically for our clients. The following tips may help you to avoid information overload and stay focussed and less stressed.
- Draw up your own list of favourite contributors and sources who you will follow, read and trust.
- At the start of each new contract evaluate whether you need to extend your list to include content specific to your new project.
- Allow time for reviewing reports, podcasts, blogs etc rather than dipping in and out. Set a time that fits with your life and plan what subjects you need to be across.
- Do a topline ‘The week ahead’ plan, including time and topics for learning.
- Build a network of knowledgeable contacts, expert advisors, and trusted peers.
A healthy workspace
If you don’t have a perfect working environment, here are some tips on a minimum standard to help you stay productive and happy;
- Start with a tidy desk and some good systems. Allow half an hour at the end of each day to clear up your inbox, tidy your desk and review your to do list.
- Be your own health and safety officer – is your chair comfy? Your screen at the correct height? Your light good enough?
- Take regular breaks – stand up and walk around and drink plenty of water.
- Look at things that inspire you – photos or great views, colour, or calm, whatever works for you.
- 5 minutes of mindful breathing can help reset things after a stressful meeting.
- Smile, it tricks your body and makes you happier!
Purpose and planning
You’re the boss… make a plan! No matter how, why, or when you became a freelancer/consultant, YOU decide what you want from your working life. How much income do you need or want? How many days a month do you want to work? What are your long-term goals? Your answers will help you determine (or revise) your working hours and the rate you charge. Set your target working hours and when you do them (you are free to work evenings and weekends – or not) to earn what you need to take care of personal, family, and other commitments. Allocate time to do admin and business development (such as Zoom networking). And even if part-time working is not your priority, try to schedule some ‘you’ time every day. Make realistic projections for income and the number of days you will consequently have to work.
What proven expertise do you have? What services are you are offering? Why would or should a charity pay YOU, rather than someone else, to do it? This will help you decide how you position and promote your consultancy business.
You have a business plan. Be business-like to deliver it.
Wellbeing will be helped enormously if you are able to manage your time, your working relationships, and your work/life balance successfully. With every active project, it is crucial that you deliver what’s needed to satisfy the client. (Continuing and repeat business are the freelancer’s holy grail.) BUT before accepting the task, you must make sure that the demands made on your time and expertise are reasonable and achievable. Never over-promise. Always be honest with yourself about how long the job is actually going to take and allow for family time or a social life.
Circumstances may push you towards taking on a project that isn’t a perfect fit for you. The more comfortable you feel working on something, the better the outcome; try not to let compromise become the norm. You can get useful advice about stepping outside your comfort zone from your peers via forums and chat groups before and during the job. (I regularly turn to the Facebook group Fundraising Chat. As well as getting the advice and opinions I’m after, it feels great to answer other people’s queries.) Networking may also lead to fruitful collaborations.
Best working practice
Getting a project completed according to plan is so satisfying. So, be as intensively productive as you can be on every job. Block off enough time to prepare and then concentrate on producing the work. You may want to work in bursts of 25, 30 or even 90 minutes, depending on the level on concentration required and your attention span.
When you’re in your work bubble, communicate with the outside world as efficiently as possible. It’s a good idea to set times of the day that you look at email. If you need to get in touch with someone urgently, phone or text them – both can cut down on time-consuming to-ing and fro-ing.
And always keep your client in the picture on your progress, especially if it is deviating from what they are expecting.
No matter how you charge, by time – daily or hourly rates – or per project, keep accurate timesheets, particularly if you are starting out. Keeping records of each task you did (research, writing, meetings, copywriting) and for how long will enable you to plan and estimate more efficiently and accurately for future projects and can help resolve any billing and related queries. (Don’t forget to list any direct expenses incurred. Even if you can’t charge them on, you need to take them into account.)
Stay on top of actual and/or virtual paperwork at least weekly, especially anything to do with banking and self-assessment returns. (There are numerous apps which can simplify record keeping.)
Review your results against your plan... and reality
Regularly assess your progress against your business plan. Monthly is not too frequently, especially at the moment. How are the finances working? And if your plan was to work four days a week, have you been taking the extra day off?
Be fair to yourself. There is no shame in revising your targets downwards, especially in a pandemic and its aftermath. Revisit your goals and why you set them. Are you still being realistic?
Be kind to yourself. It’s quite normal to suffer with imposter syndrome, especially if you are new to consultancy. For most of us, self-doubt is more natural than over-confidence – and it shows you care about what you do. Deep down you KNOW you can do this. For support to access your self-confidence, canvass the opinions and guidance of peers you trust. They will appreciate the connection as much as you.
Always strive to be as true as you can be to who you are and what it is YOU offer.
Economic environment
If there is one thing that has characterised the last 12 months, it’s been uncertainty. Whether you’ve created a limited company, a partnership or are a sole trader this was a year in which agreements that were on the verge of confirmation sometimes turned to ashes; solid contracts suddenly became shaky and, just as with the Global Financial Crash, every transaction seemed to be paused out of fear of not knowing what was going to happen next. What started the year as a clearly defined path became in many cases a featureless desert.
But enough of the jokes and levity. Looking after your financial health will play a significant role in reducing anxiety and, thus, play a role in preserving your mental health – so, you do need to take some time out to understand properly how you’re placed professionally and financially. Here are a few things you can do:
- It’s always worth reviewing where you are with your current clients just to make sure you’re in control of the demands on you. How close is everything to your original contract / agreement? Are you managing expectation (ambition versus realism)? Are you avoiding mission creep? Are you trying to do too much? Maybe rethink how many clients you can serve concurrently at the highest level.
- There are big questions about whether you create a limited company, a partnership or act as a sole trader, which are going to be dependent on your personal circumstances and the type of business you’re seeking to run. Do you need to rethink what you originally opted to do?
- Those of you who are self-employed will have recently submitted your tax return and paid your January tax instalment. Painful as a kidney stone, isn’t it? Accounting software can ease the pain, but have you spoken to or employed an accountant as well? Some people baulk at the cost but try to think beyond this. This is someone who’s going to make sure that you’re aware of not just the current range of assistance from HMRC (Self-Employed Income Support Scheme grants, Business Interruption Loan Scheme, Bounce Back Loans), but also the various allowable expenses (i.e., premises costs – particularly relevant as so many of us work from home) which will be helpful in reducing your tax liability.
Emotional resilience
As consultants, we are often in the position of not knowing what the next day, week or month will bring. Flexibility is key to surviving in this world. However, being flexible and adaptable has its challenges. We need to develop resilience to cope and thrive.
What steps can we take towards emotional resilience? Reach out and connect with others. We are part of the fundraising community – we can connect with fellow consultants and other fundraisers in our world. Share your successes and reach out for support when you need it. Mutual support, checking in with your fellow consultants to see how they are going, can work both ways. It’s an opportunity for sharing.
Identify the areas where you want to make changes and develop a plan for moving forward. Put your consultancy skills to use with a framework that works for you, so you can identify your successes and not be overwhelmed by challenges. If you have concerns, find a person you can share your thoughts with. If that person isn’t around for you, can you write it down, another way of processing the concerns and relieving the stresses.
There are quite a few places to share and get support in our online community too. There are the Facebook fundraising groups such as Fundraising Chat and the Consultants and Freelancers’ group. I really value the way people positively respond to questions and requests. It is an open forum to share your concerns, seek advice or share great news too. Maybe investigate sites/apps such as Headspace and Breathe which offer techniques that can help build resilience. However, it’s also really important to know when to switch off from social media, or when to seek out the uplifting, joyful and rewarding messages. Recognise when it’s time to pick up the phone and speak to someone who may understand, offer advice or just a friendly, listening ear. Talking to our friends and colleagues can help hugely with our emotional resilience.
Nutrition
Stay hydrated. Many people do not drink enough water and suffer side effects including lethargy, headaches, and poor digestion. It is harder to feel like a glass of water when it is cold so herbal teas are a nice, warming alternative.
Do not skip meals. We are all bored of lockdown cooking, especially when it comes on top of work, home schooling and other time commitments, but it is important to eat regular meals. Skipping meals leads to low blood sugar making you feel sluggish and less alert, so it is more important now than ever to make sure you are getting the fuel to keep going. Low blood sugar can also cause an increase in cortisol and can also slow down your metabolism as your body looks to preserve energy, leading to you burning fewer calories.
Don't just stress eat chocolate. Stress depletes us of important nutrients, so we need to replenish these nutrients. This includes healthy fats, B vitamins, vitamin C, selenium, magnesium, and zinc. To make it simple:
- Select a rainbow of vegetables each day – 5 different colours and make sure one is always green. And it’s those colours that feed the microbiome in the gut.
- Healthy fats: mixed nuts and seeds and include oily fish 3 times a week – sardines, salmon, herring, mackerel. If you don’t eat fish include flaxseeds (grind and add to smoothies or sprinkle over soups and salads) and snack on walnuts.
- Include protein with each meal to aid with blood sugar balance e.g., nuts, seeds, eggs, fish, meat, pulses, tofu. Especially important at breakfast so you could eat avocado on wholemeal toast with smoked salmon; scrambled eggs with grilled tomatoes and wilted spinach; or sweet potato toasts with avocado and pumpkin seeds or hummus and tomato. Also, important to avoid sugar in the evenings because it will disrupt your sleep.
- There are plenty of quick and easy lunch options such as a tin of sardines with a large colourful salad or a bowl of soup with some oatcakes and hummus.
- Eat B vitamins in the form of complex carbohydrates, providing steady energy. Eat wholegrain foods such as brown rice, wholemeal bread, oats.
Learn to say no
By Claire Nethersole, CN Fundraising & Adriana Brancaleone, AB Fundraising
As consultants it can be hard to allow ourselves proper time off and not to accept over-work as the norm. Without a regular income saying no to work can be a scary prospect. However, by saying yes to everything we risk spreading ourselves too thinly, at best we may not do a good job and at worst we could burn out. So how can we tackle this?
Firstly, know you your limits, do not take on more work than you can manage. Are you taking on this work because you need the money now or because you are worried you will not get more in the future?
Secondly, manage your client’s expectations, be open and honest with them so that everyone knows where they stand and when work can be finished. Clear communication from the start about your working hours can ensure that your boundaries are respected.
Learning to say no in our personal lives as well can help us to gain more balance. If you are going through a busy time at work, then you may need to step back from other things that take up your time. Nobody wants someone to burn out just to bake a cake for a fair or to volunteer at an event. They will understand.
So, with all this saying no, what can you be saying yes to?
Say yes to a fake commute to separate home and work-life.
Say yes to turning off your email notifications outside of work hours.
Say yes to a walk or exercise break.
Say yes to a proper lunch break away from your computer.
Say yes to doing something that relaxes you.
If you take care of yourself, you will feel more refreshed and have a clearer head to tackle your work when you sit (or stand!) back at your desk.